You’ve probably heard the saying, “Confidence is THE key to getting anything“. I’m not sure I’d say it like that but, I’m on board with the sentiment behind it.
Confidence. It’s what everyone wants. That sense of self-assurance that literally ooozes out of people effortlessly. I have yet to meet a person who wouldn’t want more of it. If you want to amp up your confidence quotient(in any area of life)- no worries. Confidence can be cultivated, developed and improved.
And you can start building it right now…
1) What’s your self-talk? There is a tape that plays in everyone’s head. And, it’s either saying good stuff or bad stuff. If there is negative self-talk– take it by the horns and turn it into positive! Write down some self affirmations. Whenever you notice your mind starting to wander down the wrong path, say them again. Yes, out loud, if possible. In fact, speak them out throughout your day, as many times as needed. Rehearse and meditate on them as much as possible. Turning negative self-talk into positive can be done. Through your consistent action and diligence you can make the necessary adjustments to your self-talk, which will automatically build a more confident you.
2) Become a Pro. Have you noticed that people who are experts at something never lack confidence in that area? So, become a pro at what you lack confidence in. Be persistent and repetitious to get there. The best way (and many times only way) to get around it is to become a pro. If you have a speech to give, a skill to learn, a challenge to understand and figure out- Master it. Say it a million times. Do it a thousand times. Read it a hundred times. You’ll know you are ‘there’ when you feel like you can do it in your sleep. Mastering something instantly creates confidence. Repetition is a sure fire way. Repetition! Repetition! Repetition!
3) Get away from those who tear you down. Stop giving ammunition to anyone who desires to tear you down instead of build you up and celebrate who you were created to be! This seems like a no-brainer but, I’ve witnessed people in long-time unhealthy friendships. In the most recent situations I’ve witnessed, the reason the maligned friend continues the relationship is because of history. They’ve know this person since the 2nd grade or they’ve been BFF’s since High School. So the unhealthy connection continues. The more information you provide those who tear you down- the more ammunition you give them about why you can’t, won’t or shouldn’t progress or succeed. This directly impacts your confidence. Remember, not everyone is for you. Build your confidence by surrounding yourself with positive people who will cheer you on and not tear you down.
4) Write a letter to your future self. When you think of yourself 10 years from now what would you like to have accomplished? How will your life look different? Writing a letter to your future self outlining these accomplishments- specifically indicating what you are promising yourself. Pull out the letter whenever you need to remind yourself WHO you are and WHAT you WILL accomplish. It is a powerful exercise that helps you stay on-track and makes you accountable to your future self & your future happiness.
5) Focus on the positive in yourself AND others. If you are a perfectionist, I already know you’ll be tempted to focus on the 5% that’s flawed instead of the 95% thats great. Try to change your perspective. Reinforce the positive points in yourself and others. Not only does it make you feel better and in turn help build confidence but, it also invokes joy and happiness in others around you. Remember, building confidence in anything requires consistently stretching yourself beyond your comfort zone. It won’t happen immediately. But, keep pressing and stretching. You will see your confidence grow as you continue to push past all that is comfortable. Like what you’ve read… please share the love with friends!